Tag Archives: when to say no

Detox your friendships: making healthy relationship choices

Did you know that friendships have an average shelf life of 7 years? The ones that last longer are the deeper friendships that are truly nourishing and good. They are worth your investment, because the joy, fun, trust, encouragement and support outweigh the irritations, the upset, the clashes (which are normal). Even if you rarely actually see eachother!

Cool.

But what about the friendships – and we’ve all had them – where the bad outweighs the good?? Continue reading

When holiday hell is other people: “Staying sane holiday guide” part 2.

So here’s part two of guide to staying sane for the holidays.

The social part of the Festive Season is fun, ideally. It’s when we get to connect with old friends, family, make new connections too. It can be an incredibly nurturing time and full of genuine care and love.

There’s nearly always an accompanying pressure though isn’t there? Continue reading

Saying No: the cornerstone of healthy boundaries

At some point or other in therapy with just about every client, the topic of healthy boundaries comes up. Most of us struggle to a greater or lesser degree with knowing how to separate the ‘me’ from the ‘we’. As a result, we find ourselves exhausted, confused and/or overwhelmed by one or more of our relationships. Ann Lamott sums up the literature on boundaries in a beautiful, simple but powerful statement: Continue reading