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Emotional Detox: can one size fit all?

Both of us are firm believers that commercialized ‘detoxing’ is at the best a ‘fad’, at worst potentially dangerous. Psychologically speaking, it also appears to somehow minimize or trivialize the actual medical detox that patients need to work through in an addiction program.

We do not support (nor does the research) drastic lifestyle changes. That ranges from drastic changes in our diets to drastic changes in our relationships. Research and experience tells us that these types of changes are just not sustainable, and often do more harm than good.

Having said that, most people who choose to undertake a detox do so for valid reasons. Somehow, they know that they are just not feeling rightContinue reading

If you’re down, don’t get up (just yet): 5 Tips to help you heal

We know this might seem odd – controversial even – but we believe that it’s not always in our best interest to get up and dust ourselves off the moment we’ve had a setback.

Let us explain.

Of course, we agree it is important to develop a sense of ‘I can do this!’ (resilience) in the face of challenges.  However, Continue reading

Got the January blues? 6 Tips to get you back on track

Some of us are not blue. Nope! Some of us are just delighted that the holidays are over, the pressure is off, the tree is down, the electricity bill isn’t straining with the weight of cute but unnecessary lights, the gifts are unwrapped (lost, broken?), sleeping times back to normal, and routine and normality (whatever that is..) has resumed. Almost. Kind of… Continue reading

When holiday hell is other people: “Staying sane holiday guide” part 2.

So here’s part two of guide to staying sane for the holidays.

The social part of the Festive Season is fun, ideally. It’s when we get to connect with old friends, family, make new connections too. It can be an incredibly nurturing time and full of genuine care and love.

There’s nearly always an accompanying pressure though isn’t there? Continue reading

Holidays Shmolidays: Fed Up Yet?

Stressing out over the Holidays?

Well you’re not alone! There really is a frenzied feeling out there and it’s real easy to get caught up in it. People are rushing around, bumping into each other, glaring, frowning, clenching jaws, panicking. The atmosphere in shops/stores is almost predatorial! If you’re not careful you’ll lose that warm festive (or Christmassy) feeling they all sing about and quickly develop a hatred for your fellow man.. (you know, that person who’s not making eye contact and just parked their giant car in the space you spotted before they did.   Continue reading

Saying No: the cornerstone of healthy boundaries

At some point or other in therapy with just about every client, the topic of healthy boundaries comes up. Most of us struggle to a greater or lesser degree with knowing how to separate the ‘me’ from the ‘we’. As a result, we find ourselves exhausted, confused and/or overwhelmed by one or more of our relationships. Ann Lamott sums up the literature on boundaries in a beautiful, simple but powerful statement: Continue reading

Through the eyes of a pint of Guinness: 5 steps to to Anger Management

What is anger made of?

Sugar and spice and all things nice? NOPE! Definitely not. Clients often talk about how they get angry for “no reason”. Does this sound familiar?

Thing is – there is always a reason. Continue reading

Conquering worry: How to tame the blue elephant

False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR). This acronym is floating around the Internet to describe fear.

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Here’s Sally’s version: Fierce Erratic Apocalyptic Rigid.  It’s rather more dramatic (much like herself, some would say..). It better captures the 4am-paralyzed-with-fear feeling that can mug us as we half wake. Continue reading

We’ve Hatched! …time to ‘dive in’ despite the fear(s)!

We have been talking about starting this blog for two years. We’ve been friends for many years (since graduate school), but living on different Continents for the past 20+ years has meant that life just gets in the way of frequent or consistent communication. But that, I guess, is how we know we are really good friends. Distance and time are kinda irrelevant. Continue reading