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Holidays Shmolidays: Fed Up Yet?

Stressing out over the Holidays?

Well you’re not alone! There really is a frenzied feeling out there and it’s real easy to get caught up in it. People are rushing around, bumping into each other, glaring, frowning, clenching jaws, panicking. The atmosphere in shops/stores is almost predatorial! If you’re not careful you’ll lose that warm festive (or Christmassy) feeling they all sing about and quickly develop a hatred for your fellow man.. (you know, that person who’s not making eye contact and just parked their giant car in the space you spotted before they did.   Continue reading

Saying No: the cornerstone of healthy boundaries

At some point or other in therapy with just about every client, the topic of healthy boundaries comes up. Most of us struggle to a greater or lesser degree with knowing how to separate the ‘me’ from the ‘we’. As a result, we find ourselves exhausted, confused and/or overwhelmed by one or more of our relationships. Ann Lamott sums up the literature on boundaries in a beautiful, simple but powerful statement: Continue reading