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The Art of Saying Sorry

Did you know that there is an art to both giving and receiving a sincere apology?

Have you ever had to apologize – as in really apologize – for something you’ve said or done? Saying “I’m sorry” is a real acceptance of responsibility, an admission of wrong-doing. And most of us just hate to be wrong (please say you agree with that… It’s not just us, right?). This is mostly why many of us either avoid making apologies altogether, or when we do, we fail miserably. Continue reading

6 fake apologies and how to spot them:

We are certain that you, like ourselves, have been left feeling a little chilled at some point after receiving a long-awaited apology. Instead of feeling relief, you’re left with a churning stomach, your heart is thumping, you’re feeling de-centred, uncertain, maybe even irritated. Your gut telling you that this relationship is still not right even though you got the “sorry”. Continue reading

Detox your friendships: making healthy relationship choices

Did you know that friendships have an average shelf life of 7 years? The ones that last longer are the deeper friendships that are truly nourishing and good. They are worth your investment, because the joy, fun, trust, encouragement and support outweigh the irritations, the upset, the clashes (which are normal). Even if you rarely actually see eachother!

Cool.

But what about the friendships – and we’ve all had them – where the bad outweighs the good?? Continue reading

Emotional Detox: can one size fit all?

Both of us are firm believers that commercialized ‘detoxing’ is at the best a ‘fad’, at worst potentially dangerous. Psychologically speaking, it also appears to somehow minimize or trivialize the actual medical detox that patients need to work through in an addiction program.

We do not support (nor does the research) drastic lifestyle changes. That ranges from drastic changes in our diets to drastic changes in our relationships. Research and experience tells us that these types of changes are just not sustainable, and often do more harm than good.

Having said that, most people who choose to undertake a detox do so for valid reasons. Somehow, they know that they are just not feeling rightContinue reading

If you’re down, don’t get up (just yet): 5 Tips to help you heal

We know this might seem odd – controversial even – but we believe that it’s not always in our best interest to get up and dust ourselves off the moment we’ve had a setback.

Let us explain.

Of course, we agree it is important to develop a sense of ‘I can do this!’ (resilience) in the face of challenges.  However, Continue reading

Got the January blues? 6 Tips to get you back on track

Some of us are not blue. Nope! Some of us are just delighted that the holidays are over, the pressure is off, the tree is down, the electricity bill isn’t straining with the weight of cute but unnecessary lights, the gifts are unwrapped (lost, broken?), sleeping times back to normal, and routine and normality (whatever that is..) has resumed. Almost. Kind of… Continue reading

Being S.M.A.R.T. about New Year’s Resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions can be hazardous to your health.

You may not believe us, but it’s true. And we’re not just talking about the effects of Yo-Yo dieting.

We cannot tell you how many times we have sat face-to-face with a client who is sharing their shame or feelings of unworthiness because they have (in their words) “yet again failed”. Failed to make good on their resolution(s) for the New Year. Failed to lose weight, get fit, be more charitable, be a better parent, be more popular, or even to stop using foul language.

The weight of these feelings is palpable. Continue reading

‘Self-care’ is not ‘Selfish’! Holiday Sanity Tips part 3

Today’s focus: Self-Care

They say that Christmas is a time for giving. But when did you last give to yourself? Not just a material gift, but time, fun, nurturing things? We often forget about ourselves and fret instead about the people we love. Are we not allowed to love ourselves? Continue reading