Both of us are firm believers that commercialized ‘detoxing’ is at the best a ‘fad’, at worst potentially dangerous. Psychologically speaking, it also appears to somehow minimize or trivialize the actual medical detox that patients need to work through in an addiction program.
We do not support (nor does the research) drastic lifestyle changes. That ranges from drastic changes in our diets to drastic changes in our relationships. Research and experience tells us that these types of changes are just not sustainable, and often do more harm than good.
Having said that, most people who choose to undertake a detox do so for valid reasons. Somehow, they know that they are just not feeling right – perhaps they’ve gained weight, feel bloated, have digestive issues, they’ve noticed changes in their skin or hair, changes in their sleep, their thinking has grown fuzzy. Sometimes they are just feeling ‘blah’ and hope that a week or two of drinking green smoothies will give them the emotional and energetic boost they are looking for.
Do you tackle emotional problems using a ‘Tim-The-Tool-Man’ approach?
When we think about self-improvement, most of us seem to fall into that dichotomous thinking thing – we are either going to ‘fix it’ immediately using drastic and/or blundering measures – or we are going to ignore it (because we feel powerless to change it). Problem is, while juicing and detoxing in and of themselves have some valid applications, most people try the one-size-fits-all approach. And it can be disasterous.
Ah yes, our ‘Quick Fix’ culture. It’s part of the reason that the detox/diet supplement industry alone is worth billions.
So, just as a ‘quick fix’ isn’t realistic when it comes to our physical health, we don’t pretend to offer any kind of ‘quick fix’ in the more emotional areas of life. But we do like the detox analogy when talking about relationships. Because a lot of our relationships can be toxic, and this toxicity can certainly leave us feeling anything but good.
Think about it:
- Are there places that you go that leave you feeling tired?
- Are there things you have that you feel irritated when you see/ touch/ smell them?
- Who are the people that you feel worse around than not?
Unlike diet and food, we often don’t consider – or realize – the fact that we have control over our exposure to emotional toxins. We can choose to get rid of things that don’t nourish us. We can dump things, change venues, change jobs (ok not that easily perhaps, but it’s certainly doable!). At the risk of sounding callous, we can dump people too – indeed, most of us have people we really should dump.
Think of it as a tidy out.
Is it time for you to embark on an emotional detox journey?
Now that we have planted the seed of possibility, what choices would you make to de-clutter your life, de-tangle your relationships, and in the end feel de-lighted with the changes?
Please give it some thought. We’d love you to add your thoughts to the comments below (or send them privately if you’re feeling shy by filling in the contact form on our Welcome page!). Our next two posts are designed to help guide you through the process.
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