Author Archives: TwoWiseChicks

Hate being a stay-at-home Mom? You’re not alone

“I’m going to say something now and you’ll think I’m terrible: I hate being a stay-at-home mom”.

This lovely woman’s words inspired this Mother’s Day post.

It’s not the first time either of us have heard these – or similar – words spoken. Continue reading

Do you know what you need to be happier?

It’s always nice to hear from a previous client.

As therapists, we have a privileged opportunity to share a precious part of our clients’ journey through pain, crisis, vulnerability – but we usually do not get to hear about the “what happened next?”. Often, after the work is ‘done’, our minds wander back to our clients and we can only hope that things are going well.  Hope that our relationship however brief, had some positive influence, that they are happier now. Continue reading

How to become more tolerant (and less judgmental): 6 do-able tips

Tolerance is a skill

“The way I see it, you’re wrong“.

Or, depending on your mood, the  ‘wrong’ could be: ‘stupid’, ‘fat’,  ‘ugly’, ‘badly dressed’, ‘choosing the wrong spouse’, ‘driving the wrong car’, ‘eating the wrong foods’, ‘living in a horrible house’, ‘believe in the wrong things’, ‘have the wrong religious or political beliefs’, ‘are being a terrible parent’and on, and on.  And on.

Pick your poison.   Continue reading

Thinking Out Loud: Perception is Everything

tanya thinking out loudOn a chilly morning not long ago I had one of those ‘wow’ moments.  You know, when you’re driving along and you are just immediately struck by how beautiful the sunrise is, or the way the light bounces off your child’s hair. Continue reading

How to talk with kids about ‘sticky’ (tricky) things

sticky questionsIf you’re a parent, you’ve been there. Minding your own business, and out of nowhere one of the kids comes up and asks a ‘sticky’ question. You know the kind of question. The one that doesn’t have a simple answer. At all. Like when my four year old first asked “Where do babies come from?” big, innocent eyes peering at me over the top of my teacup.

Gulp. Continue reading

Thinking Out Loud: Navigating friendships and personal epiphanies

Sally Thinking Out LoudI think it was Goodfellas, definitely a mafia film, where I saw the following scene:

This guy owed our hero, his friend, $10. Our hero was having a lot of trouble retrieving the money, he kept on trying but his ‘friend’ was creative with excuses.

We’ve all been there right? Continue reading

Are you a good enough mother?

Ah, Mothers Day – a day to celebrate all that is Mother (or Mom,  Mommy, Mama, Mam, Mum, or “Hey You!!” – depending on how your offspring refer to you).

We all know that parenting is one of the most demanding and difficult jobs there are – and there’s no training! (What’s that about?!).   Continue reading

Thinking Out Loud: Teaching Children a Healthy Body Image When You Struggle With Your Own.

tanya thinking out loudI can remember it as clearly as if it happened yesterday. We’re sitting in a pub – my parents and I. My guess is that I was nine maybe ten years old.  But while I’m sitting there drinking my ‘soft drink’ (soda as my fellow US dwellers might call it), the issue of weight comes up. Again. Continue reading

Nurturing a healthy body image in young children

It is possible to nurture a healthy body image in our children!

How? By having (or developing) a healthy body image ourselves.

Let’s explain. Continue reading

Nurturing a healthy body image in your teenaged daughter.

Do you suck your tummy in when you think other people are looking at you? Why? Every day women (and men) are bombarded by messages on the TV, radio, print media including the internet telling us (and selling us) on how to change how we look. Continue reading